"Dress for your weight."
As a woman, this is something that is drilled into you. Find clothes that are flattering for your shape and size. That's what I did, I found clothes that hid my shape and size for years and years, which has left me in the strange position one year after losing 36.2lbs, that I feel most of the time that I look exactly the same. I think it's because people don't really notice that I've lost all the weight. Most people get comments that say, "Hey, you have lost a bunch of weight!" or "You look really great!"
I got, "Your pants are falling down." and "You should buy a belt."
In fact, I can count on one hand the amount of people who positively commented unprompted on my weight loss, and it's my husband and a senior executive at work.
It's not that I was in it for that, in fact, I wasn't it at all, but it was kind of demoralizing to not get that kind of encouragement and around January I started to give up. "What's the point of this if no one notices?"my brain started telling me. "Sure, you'll be more healthy, but who really cares if you have 5, 10, years shaved off your life by your weight if you aren't enjoying those 5 or 10 years while you're here?!"
I think that of all the things I went through with my weight loss journey, this was probably the most difficult to overcome - because my weight loss was not as visible to the naked eye as others. Some people lose 35lbs and it's like they are a whole new person, I lose 35lbs and you can barely tell.
I've come to the conclusion that maybe I'm looking about this the wrong way. Maybe this is a compliment to how I dressed before - that I really nailed the whole "dress for your size and shape" thing, that people weren't aware that I was actually 215lbs at my largest. Or maybe it's because we've gotten so afraid as a society to compliment people on physical things and I'm married that I'm not in a position to get compliments like that anymore.
But I again start my weight loss journey to get me to those last 15lbs.
Because it's not really about if people notice, it's about being healthy for me.
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