When you think you're disciplined, but your partner thinks you're obsessive...

Sorry in advance if this is the wrong place for this...

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My whole life I've struggled with my weight. I've mostly hovered on the boundary between a "normal" and "overweight" BMI. In the past, my approach to fat loss/dieting has been extreme, unsustainable, and ultimately ineffective. Since quarantine however, I've had the time and mental space to commit to a more gradual and holistic approach. I've been doing CICO, IF, and sticking to a 5x a week training routine. I've been really pleased with my results so far (I've lost 10lbs since mid-March,) and feel like I've finally found an approach that isn't just a temporary means to an end, but a lifestyle and perspective change that will carry me through for the rest of my life.

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To put it lightly, my partner doesn't see it that way. A little bit of info on my partner's health journey: He is overweight, but has lost 6-7lbs over the course of quarantine by using the loseit app (which I showed him.) He's started eating more fruits and vegetables and eating more reasonable portion sizes which I'm really proud of him for. He doesn't exercise, and is generally more laissez-faire about his health and nutrition than I am.

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The issue we're having is that I feel like a lot of times he pathologizes and criticizes my lifestyle changes, claiming that my efforts are obsessive or disordered. For example, since beginning this weight loss journey I have essentially become sober (I'm a short woman and I'd much rather eat my calories than drink them.) My partner often complains about not being able to drink together like we used to, which I understand, but then he'll go so far as to say that my diet means I'm not fun or spontaneous any more. More recently, today we went on a trip to the beach and I packed food for myself. He kept asking throughout the day if I wanted to get a drink or stop by a local restaurant, and then got frustrated by my lack of desire to do those things. I've told him how his judgements affect me, and explained to him that my health is a priority for me right now, but he still makes offhand comments that get to me. Does anyone have any tips for how to manage this type of situation/help your partner see where you're coming from?

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