Backstory:
Wife and I met when we were both slimmer. She was 167lbs and I was 215lbs. She left her husband after losing the weight. I left my wife and THEN got lighter.
She and I got fat and happy together over 7 instead of continuing good habits. 2019 she surpassed me in weight to 265lbs and I was 245lbs. She started going to the gym and counting calories. She wasn't actively losing weight but just trying to move more. She made it past me down to 230lbs...then lower.
Then I got on the scale and was 264lbs. I got depressed and worked my way through it and started losing weight by moving. She joined me in my walking, even though she was going to the gym. She started actively losing weight. She's down to 210lbs and I'm at 235ish. She joined me on my hikes. We've done 5-8 mile hikes together. I can now make it 10 miles.
We started planning on section hiking the American Discovery Trail this summer. I've spent a LOT of money on this trip...a lot of it her gear.
She injured her ankle at the gym.
She was supposed to rest but refused. Then she injured it further. Was put on gym hiatus for a while. She went to rehab and went back to the gym. This morning she said she was on the thread mill at 3.5 miles hr and hurt her ankle again. We had just talked about her being on the bike until she's more healed.
She's terrified I'm going to leave her behind this summer...by hiking more. I'm 25lbs heavier than she is. I need to move. She needs to heal. I'm 25lbs behind her.
She loves art and we've discussed her doing art while I hike. But she's still afraid of me leaving.
How do you deal with relationships and weight loss? How do you have these difficult conversations? I'm not an emotional kind of woman but I'm feeling depressed.
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