You don't have to love yourself

These are my own thoughts and feelings, so please, form your own opinion based on your feelings, because they are just as valid as mine.

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I'm so tired of everyone telling me I should love my body at every stage of weight loss, or love my body for what it's done for me (e.i. carried two healthy babies), or that I should put glitter paint on my stretch marks for all of social media to see.

I'm so tired of people telling me how I should see myself in the eyes of others, about how great they think I look and how I don't need to loose any weight.

I'm so tired of my own issues with my appearance being invalidated.

I just want to be heard and have no pressure one way or another to fit some mold of what others think I should look like, or be constantly reminded of how girls would kill to look like me.

Its great if you love your curves, postpartum body or stretch marks. It really is! I'm glad that you love yourself, but I don't love the extra weight in my thighs, and nobody should be trying to make me.

My husband has been the only one who has neither encouraged nor discouraged my efforts to loose weight. He understands that I have issues with my appearance. He also makes sure that I know he is absolutely obsessed with me and my curves, but unfortunately that doesn't change the fact that I hate them.

Everyone from close family to strangers on Instagram are telling me that I'm perfect and I should love myself. Please stop this. These opinions on my appearance carry almost no weight with me, in fact, they are insulting sometimes.

If you're reading this and wondering how you can be supportive of someone with self image issues, start with understanding what they see in the mirror. Don't invalidate them. Ask if you can help them in any way to begin loving themselves, whether it's superficial or not, their feelings matter.

Let me have feelings.

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