Losing weight and realizing how much of life I've missed out on has really got me shaken up. Especially when it comes to missed romantic opportunities up until this point.

I have always been super fat, my whole life. But that never stopped me from having friends or going out to bars, I've always been extraverted. But a health scare last year changed everything. I just turned 30 years old, I'm a 6'2" male, and for the first time in my life I'm losing weight seriously. There's no signs of stopping. On June 29th of last year, I weighed 369 pounds - as of today I weigh 269 pounds. I've lost 100 pounds and due to the health situation, my life depends on me continuing the weight loss, so there will be no stopping. I will almost certainly be a normal weight within the next few months of my life.

Even though I was always this extraverted guy, losing weight has made me realize how much of life I was still missing out on and it has really bummed me out unexpectedly. Weight loss is supposed to be such a great thing, but people are starting to treat me differently, especially the opposite sex - and it's really affecting me emotionally. I get more respect at work, I get more respect out in public, I catch women staring at me, women come up and talk to me, women hold eye contact with me when I speak to them, sometimes for so long it weirds me out. I'm still a "fat" dude at 269lbs so I can't imagine what things will be like when I'm between 190-210lbs like my doctor said he wants me to be.

I just turned 30 and I have no experience with any of this. How much further in life could I have been by now had I lost this weight 5 years ago, or ten years ago? How many promotions, job opportunities, social events and romantic possibilities have I missed out on? And what do I do now? I don't know how to be in a relationship, I've never done anything in that regard. I don't even know how to lead a conference call at work but all the sudden here I am, all the sudden being called a go-getter and being given much more roles and responsibilities.

It's so very strange, and so very new. I will be setting up a dating profile, because I've realized I 100% want a relationship, but man what a scary thing to be exploring at 30 years old.

Thanks for reading, and have a great day.

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