This is almost embarrassing to talk about but I feel like this is the only place where I can find some authentic sympathy and maybe even some words of wisdom.
I have lost over 100 pounds and this weight loss is one of my proudest achievements but I still bare the scars of my previous obese life. Most days I overlook these things and I'm overjoyed for this new body I was able to give myself but I do admit I don't have a perfectly toned body (probably never will); I have big stretch marks on my rib cage, cellulite under my butt, thick thighs, some mild arm flab but my number one insecurity is what people like to call the "mummy tummy" which is basically belly overhang right above the pelvis that some women have after giving birth -- except I never had a kid. My baby was food. I'm actually planning to get a tummy tuck someday because I wanna live my best life without a fupa but until then.. I have to manage.
It's all nice and dandy trying to conceal this pooch in your clothes by wearing flattering things or shapewear... but when you're about to get naked in front of someone you wanna look attractive for, it's crippling. I started seeing this new guy and we just recently started having sex and though he's been nothing but a gentleman and never made me feel bad for this dreadful wobbly thing I have... it's hard for me to feel confident naked with this issue. This is gonna get TMI a bit, sorry, but it's even hindering me from sitting on his face or riding him because I feel the belly just flapping in the wind is going to turn him off big time. I know technically I should get over it because we've been in the heat of the moment switching positions and all, I know he's clearly seeing this saggy tummy in all its unflattering glory yet the moment we're done, I'm back to wanting to hide the pooch. I can't stand up if he's looking because I'm incredibly self-conscious. How do I mentally get over this? I've talked about my insecurity with him and the uplifting part in all this is that he constantly tells me how beautiful he thinks I am a million times over and clearly he still seems to be attracted.. so that's encouraging. Maybe I need time to be 100% comfortable with him?
Do other women (or even men) in this sub go through this insecurity? How do you deal with it? And for the men here, how do you sincerely feel about this? If the girl you started dating had such a flaw, would it turn you off or do you simply not care?
I would really appreciate some input even if it's only to commiserate =') A big thanks in advance.
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