Hello! I've searched this topic and found a few threads, but all those I found were archived so could not add my query.
I am a 34 year old female, about 60 pounds overweight, definitely in the obese category for my height. It's in the past 2 years I have put on this weight, after a bad relationship and ensuing depression. I am ready to get healthy! But one thing is worrying me, and preventing me from making the changes necessary. I worry I might be using it as an excuse, but here goes:
I work in customer service in a male-dominated industry, and am a pretty friendly person. Prior to my weight gain, I would fairly often receive unwanted attention from male customers. Impertinent questions about my romantic life, and general unwanted attention - commenting on my hair, my outfits etc. Since I've gained the weight, this has not happened once, and it has been absolutely GLORIOUS. Almost worth staying fat for. I hope I'm not coming across as arrogant, because I assure you I'm not particularly pretty - I think it's just the combination of my friendly vibe (and perhaps the fact they can tell I have a low self-esteem), that makes these men feel comfortable saying things/acting this way. I'm sure they don't intend malice - but I cannot describe the anxiety it makes me feel.
I am terrified that in losing weight, this attention and unwanted comments will resume, and it's preventing me from making the changes I need to.
I am trying to think of things I can do to 'present' in a way that repels these men, whilst not compromising my weight loss efforts. I have tried to find a fat suit to buy online (seems utterly ridiculous to type this out). I thought about wearing minimal makeup (so as to look as tired as possible), wearing frumpy shirts, high collars/long sleeves etc.
Any other ideas?
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