I've grown up with my fair share of body issues like many of us here, probably partly due to my family commenting on my weight throughout my childhood. I was an overweight/obese child from an early age, everyone else in my family was a healthy weight and it hurt being the 'odd one out' and being shamed for it.
Now that I'm older (I'm a 30 year old woman), things are different, and it confuses me. I lost quite a lot of weight and my Mum was kind of pleased for me, but mostly freaked out that I was 'losing too much' and will tell me 'please don't lose any more weight!' in a panic, even though I'm still clearly overweight...(to clarify, I do not suffer from anorexia nor do I have a history of it either).
The other thing that's confusing me is how she speaks to my Dad and my brothers. I've noticed she will make direct overt comments on their weight, basically saying 'youre fat and need to lose weight' in only a slightly more subtle way...the comments make me feel uncomfortable on several levels. But I'm mainly wondering why she feels it's fine to tell the rest of my family that they're fat whilst keeping me - who is and has always been the most overweight one - comfortable in my overweight-ness.
I can think of a few potential explanations for her behaviour but it still unsettles me. I wonder whether anyone else is having / has had a similar experience?
P.S. Even though I say 'no Mum, I won't lose anymore weight, don't worry' just to have an easy life, I do fully intend to lose more to get to a healthy weight, she can't stop me!
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