I’m look for some validation or perspective on something that happened recently; I’m either correct or I’m over sensitive, not sure which though.
I’ve lost just over 50lbs since March. My weight change is noticeable and the visual changes really help to motivate my self discipline with my diet and fitness schedule. Usually when I come across someone I haven’t seen since I began to lose weight the praise is really kind and considerate. However every so often I run into someone who makes a really big deal about my physical changes; to the point where it’s uncomfortable. I’m fully aware of how big I was and how unhealthy it made me look & feel. “Oh My God!!! Look at you! You look so different now” statement can make me feel vulnerable and shameful. My internal monolog is something along the lines of “Damn sis, thanks for noticing & acknowledging my hard work but it’s not like I was immobile because of my weight”. At my heaviest I was 210-ish pounds and 5” tall, too big for liposuction and too light for weight loss surgery. I try to always respond with appreciation; but sometimes over complimenting my weight loss feels like I’m getting slapped in the face. I was big but not ugly.
Has anyone had experience with this? How did you not internalize this sudo-compliment so it’s not a part of your self esteem?
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