Hi all! I started my weight loss journey pretty recently (October) and have been doing pretty good, I think, and have lost 5kg/11lbs so far. I started at 91kg (ish) and am now down to ~85/6kg. I'm 171cm or 5'7 and 22 years old.
My original goal weight was 60kg (though I considered going as low as 55kg, the lower end of the healthy BMI range). I told my parents my goal weigh this morning, though, and they freaked out. They made me promise not to go lower than 75kg etc. etc., said that 60kg absolutely wasn't a healthy weight for me and not to pay any attention to my BMI etc.
Before you go into "don't take advice from anyone who isn't a licensed professional", my mother is a doctor, so I don't feel like I can dismiss what she's saying out of hand. The point she stressed most was the issues with BMI and how it relates to black people (sometimes very poorly). You can find a lot of articles on this with a quick google search (and I did), including some studies that suggest, "an African-American with a BMI of 28, which the standard chart calls overweight, might be as healthy as a white person with a BMI of 25." [x] [x] [x] [x]
My dad, in particular, has a BMI of like 29, but his doctors never discuss it with him, even after he gets weighed, because it's so clear by looking at him that he's really not in the same universe as Obese I. So I understand where she's coming from with this.
I know that the reasonable thing to do would be to focus on things other than the scale, but I'm like 70% that if I do that, I'll take it way too far. For the same reason that intuitive eating doesn't work for me, but CICO does, I think I need a number to keep myself in check -- a stopping post to say to myself: "Okay, you've done enough, you can stop now."
But after that conversation (and I'll be honest, I haven't really finished dealing with the emotional fallout from it, and might be more reasonable in the morning), the idea of a goal weight is really stressing me out. I don't think that I'd feel comfortable at 75kg, personally. I've only lost 5kg so far and have seen pretty much no physical difference at all, so I'd like to go down to at least 65kg, I think. However, my parents are definitely going to ask and I'd prefer not to lie to them about it, but also I'd rather be happy with my body and actually have some photos of me (a rarity for the past 5 years) that just go along with what they say.
I don't know if I'm just venting or if this is something that you guys can actually help with. I know they're saying this because they're concerned about me and love me, but currently I'm feeling really awful and discouraged about my weight loss, when before today I was excited and motivated :/
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