Sunday, May 19, 2019

My boss seems to be insecure and my weight loss is making it worse.

I have quite a few issues with my boss as does everyone else I work with. She is narcissistic to an extreme degree and micro manages. We are all treated as though we are idiots and she favors those who kiss her ass (but will still talk shit about them to their colleagues behind their backs).

Here's a quick list of some of the things she's done:

  • Refused to give me overtime "because you live too far", then complained about cancelling her DR appointment to cover for someone (right after I offered to cover)

  • Makes personal phones calls regularly throughout the day and loudly talks about her personal issues

  • Cannot go a sentence without complaining about some personal ailment (shoulder, stomach issues etc)

  • Moved out of the departments room because of the fan noises. Still comes in every 20 minutes or so to talk about her personal life for 30 mins at a time

  • Regularly talks about how she doesn't like working with women (I'm a woman!)

Anyway I think you get the idea. Here are the things she has done in reference to weight/weightloss

  • Early in the year I mentioned I was excited to fit a new size of pants from Costco. She said she was wearing the same pair and "lets check". She flipped down the back of her pants to show the logo. I said I'd check later, she refused and wanted to check NOW. She tried walking over to flip down the back of my pants. I stopped her. She seemed insulted?

  • While I was on night shift I was fitting a small bag of chips into my CICO. When she came in in the morning she checked the garbage and would say to my coworkers "I thought she was on a diet"

  • She wanted my opinion on dinner for the team meeting. I said "something healthy" in what I thought was a nonchalant way. I later found out she thought I said "it HAS to be something healthy" and she responded by saying that since I had a cinnamon bun earlier in the day why would I want something healthy (again, fit it into my CICO). I offered to get something ahead of time instead. She responded in a mocking tone that she'd get me a chicken and salad.

  • At said Team Meeting she openly asked in front of the entire team how much weight my coworker has gained since starting with the company.

  • I had a 1 on 1 meeting with her to see why she was being difficult with me. I posed it as "how can I improve to make things better" and explained the cinnamon bun comment was hurtful. She first retold the story leaving out of the mocking tone then admitted to it, told me I said "HAS to be healthy" but quickly corrected herself when I recalled it differently, and then proceeded to cry. She admitted it was her insecurity coming through.

So how do I deal with this lol. Our probation period is a year long so I have a few months still. Once done I will be fully union and won't mind being a little more defensive. However until then it seems the more weight I lose the worse she gets.

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