Monday, August 19, 2019

Did losing the last of your weight affect your dating life?

Consciously, I wanna do this for myself but I am so lonely and I haven't felt validated in a long time. I have seen old posts similar to this one but many of the comments refer to pretty major weight loss (>100lbs). I only have about 20lbs to lose and I want things to change in my life but I am not clear on how to do this. I had a difficult couple of years and my confidence has taken a serious knock. I feel non-existent. A couple years ago, I was about 12lbs lighter (I know this isn't a lot) and I think men treated me differently. I want to clarify that confidence was not a factor in this as I was not doing well back then. I wasn't even healthier; just thinner and more tan.

I have tried tinder but hate pictures and find the whole experience demoralising. I feel as though I can't even form casual relationships but I don't know if this is due to my social circle or not partying anymore (and failing to uptake a new social activity). It's also fully possible I am choosing guys who require me to be thinner but this is unintentional. What I'm asking is, if you didn't lose a huge amount of weight, or towards the end of your journey, did you notice a difference in how the opposite sex approached you? Lastly, at the moment, I still dress like I did at my highest weight and it would be interesting to know if - despite weight loss - some people didn't experience certain changes til they embodied (no pun intended) their new physique.

If anybody is interested to know my stats - 5'6" l SW: 167 l CW: 145 l GW: 125 l

tl;dr feel like nobody likes me, don't know if having abs will change this since I am not 'overweight'

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